Overcoming Shame: A Path To Self-Acceptance And Being You Unapologetically With Neena Perez

YAYU 9 | Overcoming Shame


Overcoming shame is a powerful act of self-liberation, it frees us from the weight of past mistakes and empowers us to embrace our true selves. In this episode of YAYU, we’re shifting gears and featuring our first female guest, Neena Perez. Neena is a Transformational Life Coach, Entrepreneur, Author, Speaker, Podcaster, and Chef. She shares her powerful story of abuse, teen pregnancy, domestic violence, and more based on her autobiography “Hit Me With Your Best Shot!”. She shares how instead of letting those experiences hold her back, she’s used them to inspire and empower others. She discusses deeply on the impact and influence of shame in our lives, and how we can overcome it and start living with ourselves. Neena also shares her no-nonsense approach in life and offers valuable advice to people who are stuck in self-shame. Join us as we dive into how we can live unapologetically as our true selves and overcome the obstacles life throws our way.

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Overcoming Shame: A Path To Self-Acceptance And Being You Unapologetically With Neena Perez

Welcome back to another episode. Your support has been off the chain and I’m so grateful for each and every one of you. We can’t do it without you. I want you to know that I’m grateful and I want to thank you again and again for taking the time to read. I love you guys for the support. Thank you. This is for those who don’t know. The way we do things around here, instead of having one guest after another that speaks about different topics, we bring in multiple guests that are going to share with us the same topic that we’re on.

This is because we have a diverse audience and we want to make sure that YAYU is serving a diverse community as well. With that, in our last three episodes, if you’ve been keeping up, we have had the honor of having three male guests. We’re shifting and now we’re moving into the point of women guests. This episode will be our first. Our first guest is not the first woman on the show but for this topic. Let me tell you. I’m not going to make you wait. I can’t wait for you guys to meet our guests.

She is phenomenal. I know you’ll probably say, “Dr. Kim, you say that to all of your guests,” because it’s true. I’ll be pouring in some phenomenal people. This one is no different at all. Let’s jump into the episode. What are we talking about here? Here’s the thing. We don’t miss a day. The news comes on every day, 4, 5, 6, 7 times, especially if you have cable. Every day, multiple times the day, the news comes on. We’re reading about it. We’re hearing about it, but every day or once a week, we hear about someone who was found out.

This person had a secret. They had something going on in the background of their life and now everybody knows it. With that, they’ve been discovered. Not in a good way. It’s been discovered that they’ve been living a double life. They’ve been lying to the people that depend on them, lying to their family members, their friends, their coworkers, their colleagues, and lying to people in their community. Now they’ve been found out, discovered, uncovered, busted because they’ve been harboring and living with a secret. How could they do such a thing? To be totally honest, that’s my first thought. “How could they live with themselves?” You might ask.

How could they carry on for so long and keep up the charade? That’s what I’m thinking. You can see them showing up for dinner, acting normally like nothing’s happened. Everything is cool. Looking into their spouse’s eyes and their children’s faces and lying. How could they portray them in such a way, knowing that one day and the day probably took place the day or yesterday or might be tomorrow, and what they’re doing will become public knowledge? Once it does, they’re going to be found out and it’s going to destroy everything. It’s going to destroy their family, and their friendships, and it’s going to undermine their career, undermine their life. How do they live with themselves? That’s the topic of our episode. How do they live with themselves?

The reason why it’s so difficult to imagine. How could they live with themselves? We put ourselves in their situation and we think, “I couldn’t live with myself,” or “I couldn’t do that and live with myself.” I’m here to tell you that we can. We tell ourselves, we tell our conscience, and we tell our integrity. We say, “My integrity won’t allow me to do such and such or to live with myself.” The truth is you can live with yourself and I can live with myself. Be honest. Think about it. If your current self is left unattended, if your current inner self is neglected, if the current inner being does not see a better future for yourself, or if I don’t see a better future for myself, I can live with myself.

In fact, my current self will live with myself in spite of the unhealthy version of what I’ve become. Let me get to where I’m going here. We’re our external selves. What you see right on the outside, the people that you see, when it’s so far away from what we truly are on the inside, it’s easy for me to think, “It can’t happen to me.” It’s easy for you to think about it as well. People think it. We think, “It isn’t going to happen to me. I’m not going to get found out. I’m not going to get uncovered. That junk is not going to happen.” Believe it or not, it happens. It happens and this is what this series is all about.

We are talking about how you guard your inner self, your true being so that you can live with yourself. This is what we’re talking about here. Allow me to give some depth or some reference to what we’re talking about here. You guys know that I’m a bona fide Jesus follower. I do that. I follow Him. I use the scripture as an anchor. For those who don’t, I want you to know I’m going out. I’m using scripture out of Proverbs. Proverbs is a book in the Bible. If you go in and you look in chapter 4 and you look for verse 23, you’ll see that this is what it says.

“We should guard hearts.” I’m always going here from my heart with all due diligence because from out of it flows the issue of life. The scripture implies that whenever we allow the inner to enter whatever we’re allowed to enter into our hearts, if it’s not examined or evaluated properly, it will undoubtedly be expressed in our lives. It will show up in our actions, either in positive or negative ways.

James Allen is an author of a book that he wrote. The name of the book is called As A Man Thinketh. This title of his book was also influenced by another scripture in Proverbs chapter 23, verse 7. It says, “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.” I like this book. It’s a little book. If you ever see it. It’s a nice size, easy-read book. Let me quote something from the book. This is so profound. It says, “The more tranquil a man becomes, the greater is his success, his influence, his power for good. The calmness of the mind is one of the beautiful jewels of wisdom. Men are anxious to improve their circumstances.”

This is what I like. I say men, but we’re anxious to improve our circumstances but unwilling to improve ourselves or themselves. The actual quote is, “Men are anxious to improve their circumstances but unwilling to improve themselves. Circumstance does not make the man. It reveals him to himself.” Isn’t that powerful? What we’re talking about in this series is that we’re interchanging the word heart with your inner being and with your inner self. You’re going to see me talk about my heart here, but I also think of heart is here.

Things enter into this quicker than it does in here. When we guard our hearts, we guard all of this. I want you to know we’re going to interchange those words because we know life is not and has not always been kind. We all know that you don’t have to live long in order to know that life is hard on us and our souls. Even when I say soul, I’m talking about our interior life. I’m talking about your inner being. You know that part. You know what I’m talking about. You know that inside part of you, fears, worries, hopes, dreams, wishes, experiences, disappointments, and failures, while all putting on a happy face. You know that part that I’m talking about.

Here’s the question. Who do people get when they get you? Who do people get when you show up? Who do people get when you go to work? When you go to school, when you’re hanging out with your friends, who do people get? Who do people get when you’re interacting with your loved ones and spending time? Who does your spouse get when you come home from work? Who do your children get? Is it the same person or is it a different person? Who do people get when you show up? How do you show up? Are you one way with a group of people and then another with other people? Is your person on the outside completely different from the person on the inside?

Here’s the thing. Whether it’s our appearance or our performance or our reputation, we attend to those outward things. It’s those outward things that we attend to much faster, much quicker than we do the inner things. Why, you asked? It’s because we know people are watching us. We know people are expecting things from us. We know that people are competing with us, competing for approval, acceptance, attention, and progress.

It’s natural to pay attention to our exterior. We all have a public life that is on display 24/7. It is on display even when you’re at home behind closed doors. There is only one person who can be attentive to your heart, to your soul, to your inner being. There’s only one person who can be attentive to what’s going on in yourself. What’s going on the inside? Only one person can do that.

That person is you. My question is, how can you live with yourself? What habits do you have to ensure that the self you’re living with is the self that you have on display? What do you do? What convictions, what beliefs, what values do you have that will ensure that the people on the outside, those who are looking, those who want to compete, what are they getting when they get you? Here’s a fact. Even if your inner being, my inner being, our inner being is healthy, even super healthy inner beings, if left unattended, if we don’t do anything with it, if we leave it there, anything, it will become unhealthy.

If you leave it there long enough, it will be super unhealthy because clearly, nothing gets better when it’s left unattended. The health of our inner being determines our capacity. It determines your capacity, your ability, and my ability to live with the version of myself that I don’t like or that you may not like, a version of yourself that you never desired to be. The health of your inner being determines how wide the gap is going to be before you crack, confess, break down, or be found out. It determines who you are compared to who you’re pretending to be. The health of our inner being, your heart, my heart, your soul, my soul has very little tolerance.

Health has very little tolerance for the lack of integrity. The health of our hearts, our inner beings, our inner self, and what’s going on the inside does not reflect what’s going on the outside. What is reflected on the outside is showing up better than what’s on the inside. The healthy inner self is going to check you and say, “We got some work to do. Let’s go get some work done. Let’s go get some help.” The healthy inner self is one. You heard of the double and multiple personalities. Just one. The integrity of our inner self, the integrity on the inside and the outside, they’re synced. The health of your inner being, your inner self, determines how far things can go before your conscience won’t let you pretend anymore.

The health of your soul determines how willing you are to lie to other people and how easy it is for you to lie to yourself, the health of your inner being. When you are no longer the self that you used to be, when you are no longer the self that you want to be, when you are no longer the self that you always thought you would be, the true you that people can see, you are truly neglecting the health of your inner self and inner being, and it will ultimately come back and haunt you. You don’t have to believe me, but you want to take my word for it. It will hurt you. No, ifs, ands, or, buts about it. More specifically, it’s going to hurt those people that are around you, those people that are most important to you.

Don’t fool yourself. We have the potential. You have the potential. We all have the potential to become someone who we would despise if our inner beings are left unattended. That’s how I know we can live with ourselves. You could become the unimaginable and live with yourself. It can be done. How do I know that? It’s happening every day. People are doing it. What I don’t want you to do is get it twisted. The difference between those who avoid becoming unimaginable and doing an unthinkable or the unthinkable is the health of your inner being. How healthy is it? The health of your heart, the health of your soul. They have the willingness and the ability to pay close attention to what’s going on inside. Those people who do that, it’s the difference.

Let me ask you, do you pay attention to what’s going on the inside? If not, how can you live with yourself? If so, how can you live with yourself? We are discussing this topic, and I have my guest here. She’s ready to jump in. She is our first female guest for this topic. How can you live with yourself? As I said before, this is an ongoing topic. Let me introduce you to my guest. Here’s the thing. Before we dive into our conversation, like we always have, I must introduce you to my phenomenal guest.

I know I said it before. All of my guests are phenomenal. I’m hitting it out of the park. I’m telling you. Our guest for this episode is a Transformational Life Coach, entrepreneur, author, speaker, podcaster, and chef. She cooks. I don’t. She uses all she has been through to encourage and impact lives one at a time. She has written her autobiography called Hit Me With Your Best Shot!: How I Overcame A Hard-Hitting Life, which is a story of abuse, teen pregnancy, domestic violence, abortion, hard times, divorce, poverty, finding faith, overcoming and hitting life back when life hits us hard.

She also has a podcast called Straight Talk No Sugar Added, where she uses her story and the stories of other leaders and entrepreneurs to grow, challenge and transform your thinking. As a transformational life coach, she empowers self-led, heart-centered women to transcend their shame so that they can be confident, self-actualize their true potential and create the life and business they have always wanted. I told you she’s phenomenal. I’m just saying. She’s bad. Please help me to welcome Chef Neena Perez to the show. Welcome. How are you?

I’m good, Dr. Kim. That was an introduction. Thank you so much for having me here. I appreciate it.

You are so amazing, and I am so grateful for you saying yes and for your presence here on our show. Readers, you’re in for a big surprise. Fasten your seatbelt like we always do because we got some juicy stuff that we’re going to talk about. Before we do that, can you share with our readers how we connected?

We have had the absolute pleasure of being in a group that we are on twice a week with Mary Henderson, who is phenomenal. I love her. She’s wise and she has connected all of this tribe of women, these amazing, beautiful, strong, smart women that are there to support each other and to be there for one another. That’s how we connected. I’m glad we connected. We’re on the same page regarding a lot of things. I’m excited to be here. I’m very stoked. This is amazing. Thank you for having me.

You’re welcome. The name of the show is You Are YOU Unapologetically because we believe that no one is better at being you. What I want to ask you as we go into our conversation is, what does it mean to you to be you unapologetically?

It means that I live a life that’s congruent with who I am on the inside. That’s what it means to be me unapologetically. For many years, I was a people-pleaser and then I went from people-pleasing to a tough girl. I realized, “What do I have inside of me? How do I want to live my life? What do I have to conquer to get there? What do I have to conquer in my life to be congruent from the inside and the outside?” What you see is literally what you get. There is nothing different from either way. I love that. That’s me living unapologetically because I’ve lived too much of my life apologizing. It was always like, “Sorry,” and the girl found out.

YAYU 9 | Overcoming Shame
Overcoming Shame: Being unapologetically you mean living a life that’s congruent with who you are on the inside.


I went back to school. I always say my best life coach was life itself. I went and got my Master’s in NLP Programming. I went and got my life coaching. I got my positive intelligence coaching and emotional intelligence. I did all of that because I wanted to discover me and I didn’t want to be an NPC in my life, a Non-Player Character. I wanted to be a player in my life.

Let me ask you this. Are you happy with living with yourself or are you still working on becoming the person you can live with?

I’m very happy with being with myself and I am working on becoming a better version of myself. It’s the and for me because I have an acronym that I use. It’s called GAIN. One is Goals Awareness and one is Mind Flow. I always say mind flow to me means that I will grow. My mind will grow, expand and shift and be able to take in new information and decipher it. I always say chew the meat, spit out the bones, decipher what’s good for me, and decipher what isn’t. I will always keep growing to be a better version of me always. That’s never going to end. I’m a lifetime learner.

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You always want to learn. If you get to the point where you feel that you know it all, you need to check yourself. Something is wrong because you’re missing something. I get that. Share with us an incident or a situation that caused you to not want to live with yourself, that caused you to maybe hide something or not be upfront with whatever the situation was or is.

Is this a PG-13 show?

We’re in a safe space and so it’s fine. I want you to share what you need to share. The majority of our readers are not thirteen and under.

That’s the reason I ask is because, like you mentioned, I did write my book, which is Hit Me With Your Best Shot! It’s entitled that way for a reason. It’s because I have been abused a lot in my life. That in itself, being sexually and physically abused as a child and then being in a horrible domestic violent relationship that almost ended in my murder. I have a lot of stories, Kim, that have kept me in shame, closed up, and covered for a very long time.

What happens is once you have one situation that has caused you shame and the next situation comes and it’s also causing you shame, it is reinforcing that negative toxic shame in your life. It becomes a part of your identity. It becomes a part of who you are. There are a lot of things that I’ve had to overcome that I wanted to hide 100%. That’s why I asked you if it’s PG because I’m like, “Are we going there? How can we go in there?”

YAYU 9 | Overcoming Shame
Overcoming Shame: Shame can reinforce something toxic in your life. If you’re not careful, it can be a part of your identity.


The reason I’m good with it is because we all have our own experiences. We’ve been through life and we’ve all done our dirt and dirt was done to us. This conversation is not about how perfect we are. We want to shine a light in those areas that we don’t normally shine a light in and be able to be transparent and share like, “This did happen to me, and yet it happened and I rose above it.”

With that, how does having a healthy inner being impact you? Has it impacted you and did it make your life better? You shared a number of things that occurred. If you can go into a little deeper of a story and tell us how you got out of it, what did you do? I’m not talking about steps 1 and 2. Share with the readers the process and how you were able to overcome it.

I did a lot of things in my life. The first thing I did is I ignored it. You were talking about it earlier. We can all live with it. Lord knows I have lived with enough dirt in my life. The one thing we better be careful about is how we judge others because we have our stuff too. Everybody got a closet with a bunch of skeletons in it. That’s why when they point something out where somebody did twenty years ago, I’m like, “I am so grateful to God we didn’t have cell phones with cameras back then.” Thank you, Lord.

We all had points in our lives where we had opened the door for something to come in that can destroy our life. Everybody has had it. You think it’s going to be the one time you do it and then before you know it, you are head and knee-deep into whatever it is you were doing. I call it in my life the fight back series. What that is, is I started to break my life down into the main points that I had to go through in my life to not be an NPC in my life but to be active. That’s the thing, Kim. We have to be completely aware that we need it to begin with.

The first part for me was overcoming shame. That was huge for me because these things that hurt you in the past that keep being reinforced by other things that happened to you are very difficult to overcome. Overcoming shame was one of the number one steps for me to start to live a life that I can be proud of, that I can be aligned with, and that I can overcome. That’s my first step. I had to face that shame.

Let me ask you. When you say you had to face it, what did you actually do? Did you look at it like this? What did you do? Let’s break it down. Let’s unpack that a little bit more. When you say, “I had to face that shame,” what did it look like to you? Paint us a picture. Tell us what color it was.

When I started to face my shame, first of all, I didn’t have the guidance and the tools that I have now developed into the woman I want to be now. I wish I had me years ago, but I didn’t. I like this version of me. The first thing I had to do is pay attention to myself because I was constantly suppressing myself. I don’t mean to, but because I’m a woman, so I know women, women tend to be one of those people that keep going. “I got to take care of my kids. I got to take care of the house. I got to pay the bills,” and we keep going and ignoring this ugly thing and negative stuff that keeps coming up.

I had to pay attention. I had to pause. I had to pay attention because the negative self-talk that I had with myself was toxic. I had to be aware of my thoughts. I had to be aware of what I said to myself and others because sometimes you deflect. I had to realize that I needed to check myself before I wreck myself. “Neena, what’s going on here? Why is this coming up?” I believe in immersing yourself in the feeling. I believe in feeling it, tasting it, looking at it, all of that. For me, shame is like a heavy burden. It feels like a heavy thing on my chest.

It tastes almost metallic in my mouth. It almost has a musty smell to it. When I feel shame, I can feel it. I realize that it was about stopping, paying attention, and realizing that you cannot stand on the sidelines like a non-playing character and think that it’s going to go away. It is not going away. It is going to be with you the next time you get triggered. Next time something is upsetting you, it will show up in its ugly head. As you mentioned in your monologue in the beginning, it will come back. You have to learn to set boundaries with yourself and with others. I am not going to allow shame to do this to me.

YAYU 9 | Overcoming Shame
Overcoming Shame: Overcoming shame is about stopping and paying attention. Realizing that you cannot stand on the sidelines like a non-playing character and think that it’s going to go away.


If I am feeling this, let’s feel it. That won’t feel good, taste good, or sound good. Now what do I do to reverse this and take this out of my life? You have to be a player in your own life. You cannot sit down and think that you’re going to be this little non-character player in the background of your video game of life. That’s not going to happen. It’s not going to work for you.

It’s about stopping and paying attention to yourself because I truly believe that we all are great and that our greatness is in us. It’s in us and we were born with it, but life covers it up, so we can’t see it after a while. We are getting lost because we don’t even see our own greatness. It’s being able to stop and recognize it and begin to start paying attention to it. I appreciate you telling me it tastes like it was a little metallic. It smelled a little musty. Share with our readers how having an unhealthy inner being and how it impacts the people around you.

I was a rough character. I used to say, “I’m blunt,” but I was mean. There’s a difference because you can be, you can be honest and you can be forward without being mean. I was forward and mean because I thought that I was protecting myself. I was going to be blunt and straightforward. I used to be such a people pleaser, so I went to the other side of the road. You start to realize that maybe you don’t even want to be around you.

I didn’t like who I was when I was so cutting with my words and cutting with my tongue. I’m also a Christian. You can’t speak from both sides of your mouth. You can’t be praising God with one side and cutting people with the other. That’s what I was doing, and that’s not being congruent to who I want to be as a person. You have to be able to check yourself. Set your boundaries on yourself, reflect on who you are, what’s important to you, and what’s not important to you. What are you willing to do and not willing to do? Are you the toxic person in that toxic people group? You’re talking about other people being toxic, but are you the toxic one?

I appreciate you saying that you were mean and owning that. “No, this is how I was showing up.” It’s important because I look back and I was like, “I was horrible.” I didn’t like people. My readers know that at the age of 24, I lost my husband and life went out of control. I was mad at the entire world. You breathe, I was mad. I was horrible at how I showed up. I didn’t care.

When I wanted the world to give me something back, it was like, “Are you going to do it my way or not?” It was so easy for me to dismiss you because you had no value to me. It was like, “Whatever.” My mindset was about what can I use and abuse, “Who can I use and abuse?” or, “I’m going to get you before you get me.” When I look back at that, I was like, “I was so horrible.”

It is impacting the people that are around us. Like you said, “I was that toxic person.” I’m so glad that you said that because sometimes we look at others and be like, “No, it was me.” Own that. It’s like, “I’m going to own my mess.” That’s what I tell people. I’m going to own my own mess because I know I can bring some mess. We’re living in a world where we’re in information overload.

As you said, you were a people pleaser, which you’re no more, but there are still people who are out there that are. They are in some of the exact situations that you found yourself in. What advice would you give someone whose outside is completely different than their insides and they know it but don’t want to admit it? How can you help them to become healthy on the inside?

There are so many ways to go about this. One of the biggest things any of us can do is to learn about the power of forgiveness. You are probably hurt somewhere or hurt yourself somewhere. Believe it or not, that is a huge factor when it comes to moving forward with your life. I know people are like, “I don’t have to forgive anything.” I promise you, you do because life throws us things that are hard, hurtful, and wrong. We ourselves make choices we regret that were hurtful and wrong.

Lots of times, if you are stuck, self-sabotaging, or can’t see a clear vision, I promise you that it has something to do with shame and unforgiveness, I’m telling you. When you have developed the capacity to forgive beyond yourself, forgive yourself, forgive others, and move on, I’m telling you that that BS in your life starts to dissipate. You can start to see that clear vision in front of you. Now you have a clear vision of where you want to go.

That’s why a lot of us are like, “I’m stuck.” Tell me about that. Where does that come from? Some people can’t pinpoint it until they start digging deep. When they start digging, they’re like, “When my father did, when my mother did, when I did, or my teacher did.” Forgiveness is if you want to move, start forgiving people. I promise you, you will move forward.

That’s so powerful as well and as powerful as forgiving themselves because people first don’t want to go in. You got to get them to do the work to go in. When they start uncovering things, they’re like, “My gosh.” Forgiveness is powerful. Thank you. That definitely is the key. One of the things I say is the easiest person for us to deceive is the person in the mirror. Get in that mirror and have that conversation with yourself. Let yourself know. Tell yourself the truth and forgive. It is juicy. I love it all. I know our readers want to know more about you in a sense of how they can get in contact with you.

It’s so easy. You can get me by Neena Perez, which is NeenaPerez.com, or Straight Talk No Sugar Added. I’m everywhere. I’m omnipresent. I’m all over the place. If you put up my name, you’re going to find articles. You’re going to find a whole bunch of stuff about me. That’s easy.

Google her. That’s so cool. Thank you. As we bring this to a close, I would love for you to share with the audience a takeaway, a conclusion. Give them something that they can chew on. I think of a pork chop bone that’s good and you’re trying to get in that nook and you don’t want to put it down. Give them something that they’re going to keep chewing on it until the next guest comes on. Please share.

You have the power to reframe your thoughts. The way you start to do that is you start to think about what it is without no distractions and judgment of yourself. You sit there and ask yourself, “What is it that I want to do? What is it that I want to create?” I don’t care if it’s crocheting kitty cats on a blanket. I want you to write it down. Start reframing what people think. Start reframing what you think you should think. Write what comes up in your heart. Start reframing your thoughts, setting your boundaries, and creating that clear vision for your life. Start living your life today because you are not promised tomorrow. Make today count to its fullest potential. That’s all I got.

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That is juicy. That was good. Thank you so much. That was more than enough. That’s going to carry them until the next episode. I’m so grateful. Thank you again for saying yes. Thank you for coming, sharing, and opening up. Most of all, thank you for being you because I tell our audience, no one is better at being you than you. Neena, thank you so much.

Thank you. I appreciate your time.

We’ll connect soon. As a matter of fact, you guys are going to hear about me going on her podcast. I’ll let you guys know about it as well. Until then, we’ll talk soon.

Thank you so much.

You’re welcome.

I always ask you this question. Think about it. How many decisions would you say that you are away from totally screwing up and wasting your life? How many decisions are you away from that? Here, we know it’s easy. It is so easy to lose yourself in this class and ideas, conflicting beliefs, and the flood of information that overwhelms us on a daily basis with society’s rigid expectations, endless self-expression, and self-appreciation. To us, it can feel challenging and daunting. What you find yourself doing is pushing it to the side, dumbing down, hiding who you are, or going with the flow. I need you to be clear when I say this. You are you unapologetically.

That means being true to how you were created and not allowing people’s opinions to affect how you show up in life. People are going to talk. They are going talk and talk, no ifs, ands, or buts about it. You have no time whatsoever to be intimidated by the presence of others and think little of yourself. Nobody got time for that. You don’t, either.

When you show up without pretense or hesitation, the world cannot dull your glamor. They’re going to try it, but they can’t. I’m telling you. Most importantly, when you are inspired, you will be inspired to shine your light. Your light will shine so brightly that it will help others to tap into their own brilliance. Put an end to the despairing mindset and begin to own your authentic self.

Own your authentic self like you own the nose on your face, the ears on your head, and the eyes and your beautiful lips. Join me here in a safe space where I will initiate an influential conversation about being you. You are you unapologetically and absolutely no one is better at being you than you. I dare you to find someone who can do you better. Thank you so much for checking out this show. I look forward to seeing you at the next one. Thank you. Take care. God bless.


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About Neena Perez

YAYU 9 | Overcoming ShameNeena Perez is a Transformational Life Coach, Entrepreneur, Author, Speaker, Podcaster, and Chef. She uses all she has been through to encourage and impact lives one at a time.

She has written her autobiography called “Hit Me With Your Best Shot”- How I Overcame A Hard Hitting Life, which is a story of abuse, teen pregnancy, domestic violence, abortion, hard times, divorce, poverty, finding faith, overcoming and hitting life back when life hits us hard.

She also has a podcast “Straight Talk No Sugar Added” where she uses her story and the stories of other leaders and entrepreneurs to grow, challenge and transform your thinking.

As a Transformational Life Coach, she empowers self-led, heart centered women, transcend their shame, so they can be confident, self-actualize their true potential and create the life and business they have always wanted.


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